Thoughts on Pride, Self-Esteem, Unselfishness, ETC

I'm just going to copy straight from my journal an excerpt from today. Another shout out to ldsjournal.com, I feel a lot more comfortable being honest in that avenue, and look now I can just share things here that I want, however, I am not editing for grammar, deal with it. Anyways, today has definitely been one of those epiphany moments: 

 I had some great insights throughout my day today though.  At clinicals this morning, one of the techs made a comment about babies.  She said "Babies are born selfish.  Unselfishness is something we learn through life." 

 I thought about that a lot.  Babies start to learn how to act unselfishly first I believe when they realize that doing things like crying affects the people around them, the people the love, in a negative way. So initially it's through love that we change.  I think later, that unselfishness is learned through service, another avenue that relies on love, or charity. 
    Then tonight at work I was chatting with the Elder's quorum president.  I told him about one of my friends who had posted pictures of her kids on facebook.  In each of the pictures throughout a period of time, you could see her husband in the background playing video games.  Obviously not giving attention to his children, obviously not sharing in the joy of their progression, while his wife is working her butt off in this x-ray program to support her dead-beat (stay-at-home) husband. He asked me frankly why women are so anxious to get married that they will go for MR. Right NOW instead of Mr. Right. I attributed it to low-self esteem and loneliness.  A woman like that will jump at anything that will give her attention, I've been there, sometimes I feel like I'm there right now. EQP said to me, "Don't ever settle Megan".  I said I never would, and that my pride and self-esteem were too high for that to ever happen, but that I'm worried about my pride...he agreed that he is also prideful and picky, and I commented on the irony of the two most prideful people in the ward being the presidents of our respective auxiliaries. ;)  He decided we're not prideful, we just have an abundance of self-esteem....which I'm sure we have learned through our knowledge of the gospel and what Heavenly Father wants us to feel.  To know of our potential, we should love ourselves!
    Then a little while later we did some x-rays on a 15 year old girl who had gotten beat up by some other girls at a party, apparently it was the ex-girlfriend of this girl's new boyfriend.  I overheard the police officers asking what happened and telling her they needed to go find her parents....I thought, man I don't ever want to get that knock on the door at 2 in the morning saying my daughter had just gotten her head smashed in.  We discussed it in the CT core while they exam was going on and I voiced my concern about how to not let your children fall into the trap of social pressures like that.  One of the other assistants said she feels like the most important thing she can do is just teach her children to be confident and feel loved, feel secure, and know what the standards of their family are.  I thought it was interesting that she talked about confidence and love, and how I had been thinking about that today in relation to becoming less-selfish.  I love how everything is so intertwined!